Fostering Children

Children and adolescents may need foster care for a variety of reasons; they have been harmed, or have been at risk of harm; or their natural parents or guardians may not be able to care for them.

Foster placements;

  • Brothers and sisters who need to stay together;
  • children with special needs;
  • teenagers;
  • asylum seeking youngsters;
  • mothers and babies.......................

all need foster homes.

The children and young people needing foster care come from a wide variety of ethnic backgrounds. They include unaccompanied minors, whose first language is not English and whom may need support and help in adjusting to living in a new country.

A significant number of children at present are older children, both girls and boys.

Most of these children will have had difficulties in their relationships at home and may have been the subject of neglect and abuse. The kind of harm a child may have experienced may include sexual, physical or emotional abuse, abandonment or chronic neglect. Many have had few role models and little encouragement to succeed. 

Love is not enough

Foster children are expecting to be let down. As a foster carer your job is to not replicate what has already happened to them.

It means setting boundaries with a child and realising that he or she may not always follow the rules. It also takes the ability to let go if and when the child returns home. This can be very difficult for many foster carers. Bonding is a natural experience that human beings cannot just shut off.  A foster carer must remember that foster care is meant to be temporary not permanent however short term placements can become long term.

Becoming a foster carer and fostering children holds many challenges for fostering families. It is a big step that everyone in the household should approve of and be fully involved in.

Fostering can be hard work at times but the rewards far outweigh the difficulties.